so this is interesting...

childless by choice: my parents made me do it.

i'm fairly close to cutting this particular blog off (the good men project, not this. i'm just too busy/uncaring to post here often). but every once in a while there is something interesting.

as i read through it, i was surprised at how well the results of the research dovetailed with my own experiences:

I was a serious kid and became aware of political, social, and environmental issues at a young age. My parents loved us, and sometimes struggled to provide the materials things that kids need. I did not want to feel these kinds of pressures.

but then again, only 40% of the respondents in question (male halves of childless couples) mentioned their fathers; the majority didn't. it's interesting how much the human brain seeks to make connections that affirm one's own choices. after all, humans aren't rational creatures, merely rationalizing ones. even me. at least i recognize it, which, i think, is main reason i've done well in my profession. i realize my shortcomings and work to mitigate or eliminate them.

anyhow, it's not even true. i'd love to have kids. i daydream about being a father sometimes. i'd love to have a son, particularly, and teach him how to be a man. i don't have daydreams about being married, though. i've not forsworn the institution, though i see it for what it is. if i happen to meet someone wonderful with whom i could raise a family, then sure. but i'm not holding my breath. i'm happy now, and i can take care of myself. i'll make the world a better place, no matter what.